Friday, September 11, 2009
Friday, July 10, 2009
New pattarn
Marriage makes you complete otherwise you will be eating alone and coming home to an empty house. The key to marital bliss is a good life soul-mate without it your life is unfulfilled. It’s the good life partner which makes your life complete. Life is not a bed of roses. One has to go through life’s rough and smooth patches. Having a supportive life partner makes the journey of life easy and enjoyable. Many people do not think how important it is to find the right person.
Studies conducted at Harvard University prove people who are happily married live longer than their single counterparts. Lower rate of diseases less cases of heart failure.This is due to tighter networks of emotional support. In a nutshell you live longer and get less sick.
Arranged marriages are still common but the concept has undergone many changes for both men and women. It is common trend to find your life partners by taking memberships on matrimonial sites. Parents in some cases initiate the process by registering their sons and daughters. It allows the girl and boy to choose prospective life partners, exchange emails, chat or talk by phone. In the end the parents get involved as no marriage introduction takes place without both sides of the families getting to know to each other.
Search for your life ideal match should not be a difficult task. All that is required to have the correct attitude the right mind set with a practical approach. We all know no one is perfect in this world. Your life partner should have some qualities to ensure that your life becomes enriched and happy.
Important qualities:
Your top priority should be good family background, right education qualification along with a steady good job counts the most. Next is honesty, lying about age, marital status, past relationships can really harm a good relationship.Good understanding, caring nature are the pillars of marriage. Patience is something you cannot overlook. Losing patience and getting angry is harmfuls.
In this modern world both partners sometimes need to work. Sharing household responsibilities, taking care of children both partners need to compromise with each other. Life partner should be hardworking in the sense he should have good working habits and not sitting idle.
All of us have negative and positive qualities with different beliefs and values. This is what makes us unique and interesting at the same time. If all of us were the same we would be computers not humans. Therefore be prepared to accept minor differences that your partner may possess. However, if you want to develop a happy relationship then both of you must learn to compromise and overlook the differences.We are normal human beings with both negative and positive traits. So it is not possible for a person to possess all the positive traits. Each one of us has different ideals, belief and faith. And this is what makes us a different and unique individual. Best advice for you would be to stop searching for a perfect life partner rather concentrate on what is logical and workable within your network.
Keep your lines of communication open and good while you are getting to know each other. Once you have narrowed down your search ask general questions to get to more her or him.
Questions that can be asked from your prospective life partner
What are you looking for in your life partner?
Tell me more about your family?
Do you live alone or with parents?
Where do you work?
What are your career goals?
How many hours do you work?
Where did you complete your education?
How do you spend your leisure time?
Is your life-style traditional,modern?
What are your preferences in eating habits?
Any medical problems?
Time frame of marriage, soon, in a year’s time?
Do you believe in helping in household chores?
Are you willing to relocate?
It is important to perform background search, with the help of friends, and relatives. Makes inquires about marital status, finance, place of work, family background etc. Anything that is important to you. Last of all good luck in your life partner search!
Studies conducted at Harvard University prove people who are happily married live longer than their single counterparts. Lower rate of diseases less cases of heart failure.This is due to tighter networks of emotional support. In a nutshell you live longer and get less sick.
Arranged marriages are still common but the concept has undergone many changes for both men and women. It is common trend to find your life partners by taking memberships on matrimonial sites. Parents in some cases initiate the process by registering their sons and daughters. It allows the girl and boy to choose prospective life partners, exchange emails, chat or talk by phone. In the end the parents get involved as no marriage introduction takes place without both sides of the families getting to know to each other.
Search for your life ideal match should not be a difficult task. All that is required to have the correct attitude the right mind set with a practical approach. We all know no one is perfect in this world. Your life partner should have some qualities to ensure that your life becomes enriched and happy.
Important qualities:
Your top priority should be good family background, right education qualification along with a steady good job counts the most. Next is honesty, lying about age, marital status, past relationships can really harm a good relationship.Good understanding, caring nature are the pillars of marriage. Patience is something you cannot overlook. Losing patience and getting angry is harmfuls.
In this modern world both partners sometimes need to work. Sharing household responsibilities, taking care of children both partners need to compromise with each other. Life partner should be hardworking in the sense he should have good working habits and not sitting idle.
All of us have negative and positive qualities with different beliefs and values. This is what makes us unique and interesting at the same time. If all of us were the same we would be computers not humans. Therefore be prepared to accept minor differences that your partner may possess. However, if you want to develop a happy relationship then both of you must learn to compromise and overlook the differences.We are normal human beings with both negative and positive traits. So it is not possible for a person to possess all the positive traits. Each one of us has different ideals, belief and faith. And this is what makes us a different and unique individual. Best advice for you would be to stop searching for a perfect life partner rather concentrate on what is logical and workable within your network.
Keep your lines of communication open and good while you are getting to know each other. Once you have narrowed down your search ask general questions to get to more her or him.
Questions that can be asked from your prospective life partner
What are you looking for in your life partner?
Tell me more about your family?
Do you live alone or with parents?
Where do you work?
What are your career goals?
How many hours do you work?
Where did you complete your education?
How do you spend your leisure time?
Is your life-style traditional,modern?
What are your preferences in eating habits?
Any medical problems?
Time frame of marriage, soon, in a year’s time?
Do you believe in helping in household chores?
Are you willing to relocate?
It is important to perform background search, with the help of friends, and relatives. Makes inquires about marital status, finance, place of work, family background etc. Anything that is important to you. Last of all good luck in your life partner search!
Friday, August 22, 2008
Arranging Civil marriages
Any marriage which takes place in England and Wales, other than a marriage within the Church of England, requires the bride and groom to attend at the district Register Office where they live. Both the bride and groom are required to give their 'Notice of Marriage', this is the legal document identifying the two people who are to be married to each other and the place of marriage.
Legal Preliminaries
Giving your 'Notice of Marriage'
Notice of Marriage cannot be given more than 12 months before the date it is to take place. A minimum period of 15 clear days is legally required before the authority for the marriage to take place may be issued by the Superintendent Registrar.
The Notice will be displayed within the Register Office so that any person who wishes to make a legal objection to the marriage may do so.
In order for you to give your Notice of Marriage you must have lived within North East Lincolnshire for a minimum of 7 days prior to giving the Notice of Marriage.
DOCUMENTATION - What is required?
When you attend at the Register Office to give the 'Notice of Marriage' you must bring the following documents with you. These can vary depending upon you current marital status.
* Current, valid passport or birth certificate and a document confirming the use and spelling of your name.
* Utility bill to confirm your address.
The following documents may also be required:
* Decree Absolute - if this is a foreign document, a translation into English will be required.
* Death Certificate of late spouse.
* Change of name Deed or Statutory Declaration.
* Consent form if under 18 years of age.
Legal Preliminaries
Giving your 'Notice of Marriage'
Notice of Marriage cannot be given more than 12 months before the date it is to take place. A minimum period of 15 clear days is legally required before the authority for the marriage to take place may be issued by the Superintendent Registrar.
The Notice will be displayed within the Register Office so that any person who wishes to make a legal objection to the marriage may do so.
In order for you to give your Notice of Marriage you must have lived within North East Lincolnshire for a minimum of 7 days prior to giving the Notice of Marriage.
DOCUMENTATION - What is required?
When you attend at the Register Office to give the 'Notice of Marriage' you must bring the following documents with you. These can vary depending upon you current marital status.
* Current, valid passport or birth certificate and a document confirming the use and spelling of your name.
* Utility bill to confirm your address.
The following documents may also be required:
* Decree Absolute - if this is a foreign document, a translation into English will be required.
* Death Certificate of late spouse.
* Change of name Deed or Statutory Declaration.
* Consent form if under 18 years of age.
Arranging Civil marriages
Any marriage which takes place in England and Wales, other than a marriage within the Church of England, requires the bride and groom to attend at the district Register Office where they live. Both the bride and groom are required to give their 'Notice of Marriage', this is the legal document identifying the two people who are to be married to each other and the place of marriage.
Legal Preliminaries
Giving your 'Notice of Marriage'
Notice of Marriage cannot be given more than 12 months before the date it is to take place. A minimum period of 15 clear days is legally required before the authority for the marriage to take place may be issued by the Superintendent Registrar.
The Notice will be displayed within the Register Office so that any person who wishes to make a legal objection to the marriage may do so.
In order for you to give your Notice of Marriage you must have lived within North East Lincolnshire for a minimum of 7 days prior to giving the Notice of Marriage.
DOCUMENTATION - What is required?
When you attend at the Register Office to give the 'Notice of Marriage' you must bring the following documents with you. These can vary depending upon you current marital status.
* Current, valid passport or birth certificate and a document confirming the use and spelling of your name.
* Utility bill to confirm your address.
The following documents may also be required:
* Decree Absolute - if this is a foreign document, a translation into English will be required.
* Death Certificate of late spouse.
* Change of name Deed or Statutory Declaration.
* Consent form if under 18 years of age.
Legal Preliminaries
Giving your 'Notice of Marriage'
Notice of Marriage cannot be given more than 12 months before the date it is to take place. A minimum period of 15 clear days is legally required before the authority for the marriage to take place may be issued by the Superintendent Registrar.
The Notice will be displayed within the Register Office so that any person who wishes to make a legal objection to the marriage may do so.
In order for you to give your Notice of Marriage you must have lived within North East Lincolnshire for a minimum of 7 days prior to giving the Notice of Marriage.
DOCUMENTATION - What is required?
When you attend at the Register Office to give the 'Notice of Marriage' you must bring the following documents with you. These can vary depending upon you current marital status.
* Current, valid passport or birth certificate and a document confirming the use and spelling of your name.
* Utility bill to confirm your address.
The following documents may also be required:
* Decree Absolute - if this is a foreign document, a translation into English will be required.
* Death Certificate of late spouse.
* Change of name Deed or Statutory Declaration.
* Consent form if under 18 years of age.
Thursday, August 21, 2008
marriage in Caste
Among most Indian Hindus, the hereditary system of caste (Hindi: jâti) is an extremely important factor in arranged marriage. Arranged marriages, and parents, almost always require that the married persons should be of the same caste. Sometimes inter-caste marriage is one of the principal reasons of familial rejection or anger with the marriage. The proof can be seen by the numerous Indian marriage websites on the internet, most of which are by caste. Even within the caste, there is obligation, followed strictly by many communities, to marry (their son/daughter) outside the gotra (sub-caste or clan). E.g., most Vaishyas (the business/merchant caste) prohibit marriage within the same gotra, because being of the same lineage the spouses would be though of (almost) as brother and sister. It must however be noted that modern India, being a secular democracy, does not prohibit inter-caste or intra-gotra marriage (by the Hindu Marriage Act), but neither does it prohibit the caste system completely (only caste discrimination is prohibited). Caste Associations are still very much legal (sometimes they call themselves by more acceptable names, like samâj, lit., society). Recently, one of such caste associations fined its member (a state legislator) for permitting his son's inter-caste marriage: A Congress MLA from Chhattisgarh had to pay a fine of Rs 24,000 to the community he belongs to following his son’s inter-caste marriage.[7]
On the other hand, many Indian families who consider the caste system as an artificial excuse for social inequity have the opposite preference. They prefer to marry persons of differing caste and tend to avoid matches within the same caste. It is believed that intercaste marriages weaken the caste system and thus reduce social inequality caused by the caste stratification. Such families are also often open to marriages across national borders. But even among them are some families who, if of the upper castes, will not accept marriage with the so-called low castes (like dalits).
On the other hand, many Indian families who consider the caste system as an artificial excuse for social inequity have the opposite preference. They prefer to marry persons of differing caste and tend to avoid matches within the same caste. It is believed that intercaste marriages weaken the caste system and thus reduce social inequality caused by the caste stratification. Such families are also often open to marriages across national borders. But even among them are some families who, if of the upper castes, will not accept marriage with the so-called low castes (like dalits).
cultures of arrange Marriages
In cultures where dating is not prevalent, arranged marriages perform a similar function--bringing together people who might otherwise not have met. In such cultures, arranged marriage is viewed as the norm and preferred by young adults.[citation needed] Even where courtship practices are becoming fashionable, young adults tend to view arranged marriage as an option they can fall back on if they are unable or unwilling to spend the time and effort necessary to find spouses on their own.[citation needed] In such cases, the parents become welcome partners in a hunt for marital bliss. Further, in several cultures, the last duty of a parent to his or her son or daughter is to see that he or she passes through the marital rites.
In some cultures, arranged marriage is a tradition handed down through many generations. Parents who take their son or daughter's marriage into their own hands have themselves been married by the same process. Many parents, and children likewise, feel pressure from the community to conform, and in certain cultures a love marriage or even courtship is considered a failure on the part of the parents to maintain control over their child[citation needed]. In such cultures, children are brought up with these cultural assumptions and so do not feel stifled. They experience them as natural boundaries. The stratification of society using caste system and its involvement in marriage is often experienced by most of the Indian parents.
Parents in some communities fear social and/or religious stigma if their child is not married by a certain age.[citation needed] Several cultures deem the son or daughter less likely to find a suitable partner if he or she is past a certain age, and consider it folly to try to marry them off at that stage.[citation needed]
In these societies, including China, the intragenerational relationship of the family is much more valued than the marital relationship. The whole purpose of the marriage is to have a family.[5]
In some cultures, arranged marriage is a tradition handed down through many generations. Parents who take their son or daughter's marriage into their own hands have themselves been married by the same process. Many parents, and children likewise, feel pressure from the community to conform, and in certain cultures a love marriage or even courtship is considered a failure on the part of the parents to maintain control over their child[citation needed]. In such cultures, children are brought up with these cultural assumptions and so do not feel stifled. They experience them as natural boundaries. The stratification of society using caste system and its involvement in marriage is often experienced by most of the Indian parents.
Parents in some communities fear social and/or religious stigma if their child is not married by a certain age.[citation needed] Several cultures deem the son or daughter less likely to find a suitable partner if he or she is past a certain age, and consider it folly to try to marry them off at that stage.[citation needed]
In these societies, including China, the intragenerational relationship of the family is much more valued than the marital relationship. The whole purpose of the marriage is to have a family.[5]
Atlernates of arrange Marriages
The pattern of arranged marriage can be employed for other reasons besides the formation of a promising new family unit. In such marriages, typically economic or legal reasons take precedence over the goal of selecting a well-matched couple. Though critics are not always specific, criticism of arranged marriage usually targets abuses such as forced marriage and child marriage.
* In a forced marriage, the parents choose their son's or daughter's future spouse with no input from their son or daughter. This form of arranged marriage is rare in the modern Western world, but not quite as rare in some other parts of the world. Occasionally, even if the son or daughter disapproves of the choice, the marriage takes place regardless, overriding their objections. In some societies, in order to ensure cooperation the parents may threaten the child with punishment, or in rare cases, disinheritance and death. Motivating factors for such a marriage tend to be social or economic, i.e., the interests of the family or community goals served by the marriage are seen as paramount, and the preference of the individual is considered insignificant.
* In a child marriage, children, or even infants, are married. The married children often live apart with their respective families until well after puberty. Child marriages are typically made for economic or political reasons. In rural India and several other countries, the requirement of providing a dowry for daughters is generally acknowledged to be a contributing factor to female infanticide.[citation needed]
* In a shotgun wedding, the groom is forced to marry the bride due to unplanned pregnancy (or other reasons). It is given this colloquial name from the traditional method of force used: holding a shotgun to the groom's head until he is married. This can also be classified as a forced marriage. Although it is worth noting that the concept came about before the invention of the shotgun. Laws of Old Testament Israel said that if an unmarried couple engages in extramarital sex the female can force the man to marry her or pay a fine.[1] A reason is never given in the text, but it is likely predicated on the text's specification that the woman was a virgin; no longer being a virgin, it would be difficult for her to find a marriage, and so her sexual partner must marry her to provide for her well-being. Alternatively, it could be based on family honor, i.e. it was shameful for her to have had relations without being married, and it would be all the more shameful if she had a child out of wedlock.
Coercion to marry is commonly considered a violation of fundamental human rights in most Western societies, primarily because of its usurpation of a choice that, in most Western thought, belongs solely to the individuals involved. People can "find themselves stuck in marriages with persons decidedly not of their own choosing... whom they may find personally repulsive."[2]
A further condemnation of the practice of arranging marriage for economic reasons comes from Edlund and Lagerlöf (2004) who argued that a love marriage is more effective for the promotion of accumulation of wealth and societal growth.[3]
* In a forced marriage, the parents choose their son's or daughter's future spouse with no input from their son or daughter. This form of arranged marriage is rare in the modern Western world, but not quite as rare in some other parts of the world. Occasionally, even if the son or daughter disapproves of the choice, the marriage takes place regardless, overriding their objections. In some societies, in order to ensure cooperation the parents may threaten the child with punishment, or in rare cases, disinheritance and death. Motivating factors for such a marriage tend to be social or economic, i.e., the interests of the family or community goals served by the marriage are seen as paramount, and the preference of the individual is considered insignificant.
* In a child marriage, children, or even infants, are married. The married children often live apart with their respective families until well after puberty. Child marriages are typically made for economic or political reasons. In rural India and several other countries, the requirement of providing a dowry for daughters is generally acknowledged to be a contributing factor to female infanticide.[citation needed]
* In a shotgun wedding, the groom is forced to marry the bride due to unplanned pregnancy (or other reasons). It is given this colloquial name from the traditional method of force used: holding a shotgun to the groom's head until he is married. This can also be classified as a forced marriage. Although it is worth noting that the concept came about before the invention of the shotgun. Laws of Old Testament Israel said that if an unmarried couple engages in extramarital sex the female can force the man to marry her or pay a fine.[1] A reason is never given in the text, but it is likely predicated on the text's specification that the woman was a virgin; no longer being a virgin, it would be difficult for her to find a marriage, and so her sexual partner must marry her to provide for her well-being. Alternatively, it could be based on family honor, i.e. it was shameful for her to have had relations without being married, and it would be all the more shameful if she had a child out of wedlock.
Coercion to marry is commonly considered a violation of fundamental human rights in most Western societies, primarily because of its usurpation of a choice that, in most Western thought, belongs solely to the individuals involved. People can "find themselves stuck in marriages with persons decidedly not of their own choosing... whom they may find personally repulsive."[2]
A further condemnation of the practice of arranging marriage for economic reasons comes from Edlund and Lagerlöf (2004) who argued that a love marriage is more effective for the promotion of accumulation of wealth and societal growth.[3]
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